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Oct 19, 2020

Because duct tape isn't an option...I've created an episode to help you handle a challenging boss.

Today's guest is Parissa Behnia, formerly a challenging boss herself, who now specialises in working with what she calls 3D leaders (difficult, dismissive and divisive).

She shares three strategies for you to try next time you're about to lose your shiitake at work.

Learn...

  • Why labels and name calling can strain communication (okay, okay...begrudgingly letting go of the term 'bosshole')
  • How empathy can be a game-changer
  • How having a few key interventions in your back pocket can shift a tense moment

Grab your cuppa and join us.

Links and Resources:

Parissa Behnia on LinkedIn

Parissa Behnia’s Website

The Asshole Survival Guide by Robert Sutton

Hogan Assessments

Mandy Lehto

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by Parissa Behnia:

“A 3D leader is difficult, dismissive, divisive. They are high-value, high performers, have high positions in an organization, but because of being that 3D leader, they are starting to diminish their value.”

“Empathy means that we are looking to find out what is driving the behavior of these 3D leaders.”

“In times of stress, the dark sides of our personalities always come out. But it’s also sometimes the dark sides that help us be super productive and get the results that we’re looking for.”

Oct 7, 2020

Excuses are always available.

And yet there are people who just go for it in life. They have a spark about them. A knack of creating a big, juicy life, not just reacting to a never-ending to-do list.

Danusia Malina-Derben, is one such woman. She's an entrepreneur, academic, and organizational behavior and development expert. Oh, and she's a mum of ten.

She's also the host of the School for Mothers and School for Fathers podcasts, and the author of two forthcoming books in 2021. 

I asked Danusia to share about being brave and handling her insidious inner critic.

How does Danusia set and accomplish unreasonable goals?

How does she live a created life on her OWN terms?

Our conversation covers:

  • Changing your inner critic's diet (SO good!)
  • Why unreasonable goals and falling on your face is necessary
  • Doing vs Being
  • How do you play the cards of failure when you're on your face?
  • The power of a bold request - you can't get what you don't ask for

Grab your cuppa and join us!

Links and Resources:

Effective Leadership Development and Business Consulting

Danusia Malina-Derben on LinkedIn

School for Mothers Podcast

School for Fathers Podcast

David Taylor-Klaus

Fear of Flying by Erica Jong

Mandy Lehto

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by Danusia Malina-Derben:

“Somehow, my soul had a calling to do lots of things - and do them really well.”

“I’m concerned about the bottom line, but I’m more concerned about people. People are my thing.”

“Unreasonable goals drive accomplishments.”

Apr 28, 2020

As the world grapples with Covid-19, deep presence and the ability to create a sense of calm and groundedness feel more important than ever in leadership.

I'm not just talking about VIP's in the business world. I'm talking about self-leadership too.

Today's guest says a leader is someone entrusted with holding the heart of an endeavour or a family. It's someone who inspires us "to hold each other well." (I mean, how beautiful is that?)

Kelly Wendorf is a coach, mother, spiritual mentor and founding partner of Equus, an 11-acre experiential learning & discovery campus in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Horses are co-facilitators in their work at the ranch, and much of Kelly's wisdom on leadership has emerged from her life-long observations of the horse herd, a 56-million-year-old system.

Kelly's also the author of the forthcoming book, Flying Lead Change, published by Sounds True this autumn.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What it means to lead from behind 
  • Leadership the equine way - tapping into the wisdom of the horse herd
  • Qualities to base your own leadership on
  • What if I don't see myself as charismatic, or having any X-factor? How can I lead?
  • How checking in with your body can change how you plan your diary (and your life)

Join us (and alpha horse, Artemis).

Links and Resources:

Equus

Flying Lead Change 

Getting Ahead by Leading From Behind

Mandy Lehto

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by Kelly Wendorf:

“I love to create conditions for people to have transformative experiences and change their lives.”

“The qualities I trust and I look for, both in myself and in those who I trust to lead, are curiosity, vulnerability, porousness.”

“These are qualities that are much more powerful because they draw people in.”

“Be deeply present with what is—our feelings, who we are, our circumstances. That is a powerful spiritual practice.”

Apr 8, 2020

Ever run yourself ragged hosting a party, and yet DECLINED offers of help (while seething silently)?

Or maybe you agreed to watch a friend's gaggle of unruly kids for the weekend (while your own bandwidth and energy were already non-existent), and yet declined her offer to reciprocate next weekend.

You have a huge portal for giving, and a teeny pinhole for receiving. 

Sound familiar?

And if so, what the heck is going on there? 

Today's guest, April Boyd, a psychotherapist, says not receiving can be a way of protecting yourself in relationships.

After a traumatic event in her own life, April learned that receiving help - and even more, ASKING for it - was riddled with complexity.

She says it's vulnerable to receive. Asking for help is even more of a challenge. And yet, declining it blocks connection.

If you regularly utter, "No, it's fine, I've got this," this episode will help you get better at saying, "Thank you, that would be really great."

We discuss:

  • Why receiving feels risky
  • How to determine if you want to receive help from this person
  • How to ask for what you want (without getting all cringey and awkward)
  • Noticing your auto-response to offers of support
  • Self-Check: How often do YOU give when you don’t actually have the bandwidth? HINT: This matters!
  • The role of shame in receiving

Ready to receive more (and seethe less)?

Join us!

Links and Resources

April Boyd on Instagram

Mandy Lehto

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

 

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by April Boyd:

“One of the things that makes receiving so much harder than giving is it’s actually a really vulnerable place to be.”

“We have this culture that really encourages us to wear that badge of honor of being so independent and not needing anyone, and being able to do it all. That’s a myth.”

“How often do you say ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no’?”

“Recognize that the guilt is just often a built-in part of this process.”

Apr 8, 2020

Ever feel like your relationship with pleasure, sensuality and the feminine is a bit of a Rubik’s cube?

For years, I heard the phrase “get out of your head and into your body,” and never really understood it. I mean, duh, where else would I be? I clearly had a lot to learn…

Today’s guest is Alexis Artin, owner of a globally renowned female empowerment company who’s on a mission to help women connect with their bodies.

Before you do a U-turn Gents, this episode isn’t just for women. There’s some real insight here for you too…

We discuss:

  • Feminine and Masculine Energy: What’s the difference? Why should we care?
  • Embodying the feminine: Awareness, appreciation, and experiencing feelings/senses 
  • Practical ways to access our feminine – and what that can mean in our lives (pure goodness)

Links and Resources

Alexis Artin

Alexis Artin on Instagram

The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine

Why Gender Matters by Leonard Sax

Mandy Lehto

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by Alexis Artin:

“I really wear so many hats in my life. My friends refer to me, jokingly, as the Forrest Gump of the Feminine.”

“What are the three worst words that a man can hear from a woman? ‘We gotta talk.’”

“It is inherently dangerous to be in a feminine body. Being in a feminine body, life is the ultimate resource and that’s what the feminine is, she’s the source of life.”

“Feminine Experience of Life: When a woman is in that experience, it’s pleasureful, and that pleasure is magnetic.”

Jan 29, 2020

How would life change if you could shift your relationship with the negative voice in your head? Submit to it less. Lighten up a little. Do what you want anyway, even if the voice threatens you with public humiliation and epic cringey-ness.

Honestly, we can be such dicks to ourselves. If you're as sick of that as I am, grab your mug of something hot and hit <play>.

Suzy Reading - author, coach, and champion of all things self-care-related - is back on the show by popular demand.

Listen to our popular previous episode, "Win at self-care and willpower," HERE.

Today we talk about:

  • Worthiness - stories we tell ourselves about not being good enough
  • Self-worth is a choice (never thought about it like that!)
  • HALT Check-in - You need to know about this...
  • Are you successful in spite of yourself?
  • Permissioning ourselves to honour boundaries and feelings - it's essential

Join us!

Links and Resources:

Suzy Reading

The Little Book of Self-Care

Stand Tall Like a Mountain: Mindfulness & Self-Care for Children and Parents

The Self-Care Revolution

Suzy Reading on Instagram 

Suzy Reading on Facebook

Suzy Reading on Twitter

Mandy Lehto

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by Suzy Reading:

“It comes down to how we talk to ourselves, treat ourselves, view ourselves, and allow other people to treat us.”

“It’s learning how to shape your inner language, as well as your actions.” 

“You can’t change something until you’re aware of it.”

“Our thoughts, our emotions, our sensations, our memories, all of these things are passing states.”

Dec 29, 2019

"Is this all there is?"

Maybe you've asked yourself that question after achieving something - a promotion, a degree, a level of success - that you were convinced would fulfil you.

And when you get there, it feels kinda meh, empty even.

Then there's the guilt about how you're feeling, when, to the outside world, you've MADE IT, baby.

It's depressing, yet alienating (I mean who'd complain at having your embarrassment of riches, hey?) So you shut up, and suck it up.

That's what makes it the head screw of all head screws.

Meet today's guest, Shelley Paxton, former chief marketing officer of the badass brand, Harley-Davidson.

She rode choppers in some of the coolest places on the planet; had a swoon-worthy wardrobe; had people hanging on her every word.

I knew her back then. She seemed like one powerful mofo, a woman with her life together.

The reality? Shelley was holding on by her manicured fingernails, numbing nightly with food and a bottle of wine. She felt empty and full of self-loathing, unsure how she could go on like this. She had recurring nightmares for months. To say she was 'burnt out' was putting it mildly.

“My soul was feeling neglected. It wanted to be acknowledged and loved and nurtured and fed. Instead, it was shrivelling up and dying.”

In today's episode, Shelley shares how she became the Chief Soul Officer of her own life (I love that phrase!)

She created the Soulbbatical, a new way of being that listened to the knowing that was trying to bubble up from within, instead of tamping it down with food and booze and pretending.

Show highlights include:

  • What is a Soulbattical? She wrote a book about it!
  • Finding yourself doesn’t necessarily mean leaving your job
  • Are you a Ninja of Numbing?
  • 10 Commandments to being a Chief Soul Officer:
    • Don’t ask for permission, give it to yourself
    • Authenticity is truest form of rebellion
    • Courage over comfort
    • Impact over ego; ask for help
    • Self-first is not selfish (self-worth trumps net worth)
    • Release the Shackles of Should
    • Look inward
    • Values over validation
    • Are you Soulccessful?
    • Be a soul ambassador in every aspect of your life to spark a movement

Grab your cuppa and join us. Your soul will thank you!

Links and Resources:

Soulbbatical

Shelley Paxton on Instagram

Shelley Paxton on Facebook

Stillness Is The Key by Ryan Holiday

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by Shelley Paxton:

“Soulbbatical is about creating a life that’s more authentic, more courageous, and more on purpose.”

“I’m on a mission to liberate a billion souls.”

“Soulbbatical is about rebelling for who we are and what we want for our best life, for our fulfillment, for our own unique path forward.”

Nov 13, 2019

Today's guest craves failure (not chocolate like the rest of us).

Most people will run a mile to avoid failing and looking bad, lest folks point and laugh.

Not Dr. Erin Baker.

She's a leadership coach with a PhD in social psychology. In her previous career, Erin held senior roles at Microsoft and Facebook (READ: lots of pressure to perform and get things right).

With a big brain and a stellar career, you might find yourself thinking, "Say what?" if I told you that Erin was terrified of failing.

Or rather, she used to be.

Instead of living in fear, Erin geeked out on it, examined it like a scientist, and came up with some fascinating conclusions that you want to know about

If you've got bullet-proof confidence and eat fear for breakfast (with a side of spiders), this episode is NOT for you. Have a lovely day. Bye now!

But if you've ever felt like a weenie, doubted yourself, or played small because you're afraid to splat, then tune in my friend. You're in for a treat.

Here's a few things we play with in this episode:

  • When you fail, do you move on, or do you chastise yourself on replay? (Remember that time you screwed up in 1977?) 
  • How getting clear on real vs. perceived risk can be a game-changer
  • Dreaming big (it starts with small steps)
  • Befriending failure? Research and data make all the difference
  • What failure actually means, depends on you (I never thought about it like that...)

Join us! There's bubbly at the end!

Links and Resources:

Dr. Erin Baker

Dr. Erin Baker on Facebook

Dr. Erin Baker on LinkedIn

The Little Engine That Could

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by Dr. Erin Baker:

“I am a recovering perfectionist. I spent the first 33 years of my life just absolutely terrified of what it meant if I failed.”

“These days, I actually crave failure.”

“When we fail, we’ve just done some sort of action.”

“Bubbles for everyone!” (very possibly the best quote ever)

Sep 18, 2019

I first met Harriet Minter when she was giving a talk at the Festival of Doers this summer. One of her lines stuck with me as she described her career path:

"Proceed until apprehended."

I knew straightaway that I wanted her on the podcast.

Harriet is a woman who understands that if you want something, no one is coming to present the object (person/job/opportunity) to you on a silver platter.

There's no Harry Potter wand involved, no booming Charlton Heston voice from the clouds permissioning you to go for it.

You proceed until apprehended.

Life lesson right there.

I'm excited for you to meet Harriet, who has been a journalist for nearly fifteen years (with six of those at the Guardian). As a freelance journalist she has written for The Times, The Telegraph and The Sunday Times, as well as many leading magazines.

She's the host of the award-winning Badass Women's Hour and regularly appears on the BBC and Sky News as a commentator.

Oh and she's also a qualified coach and facilitator.

In today's episode Harriet shares three key pieces of work wisdom that she's gleaned from extraordinary leaders, including Sheryl Sandberg and Arianna Huffington.

  • How Sheryl Sandberg gets so much done, and how you can try this particular tip
  • How Arianna Huffington gets people so deeply engaged, and how you can too
  • Why you should be saying YES more of the time

Grab your cuppa and join us. Your career will thank you.

 

Links and Resources

 

Harriet Minter

Harriet Minter on Twitter

Harriet Minter on Instagram

Thrive by Arianna Huffington

Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In Initiative

Mama Gena

Sean Stephenson 

Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

Headspace Breathing Exercises

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Harriet Minter:

 

“I’ll just do it. If it’s not ok, somebody will tell me.”

 

“If you don’t want to do something, don’t say ‘yes’ to it. Just say, ‘no’.”

 

“Whatever you are doing, it’s always just one moment in your life. You’ll get another one in another moment.”

 

“Time expands. The slower we take life, the more time we have.” 

Jun 1, 2019

Wolves don't go around worrying about how many wolf things they got done today.

They're into being, not doing. They're not over-identified with their output.

They also don't cling to old hurts forever. They remember, but they move on.

For these and other reasons, wolves are brilliant teachers for humankind. And if we want to continue as a sustainable civilisation, we urgently need their help, says today's guest.

Teo Alfero is an author, spiritual teacher and owner of Wolf Connection, an educational sanctuary and wilderness retreat centre in California.

His fascinating new book The Wolf Connection: What Wolves Can Teach Us About Being Human is available for pre-order on Amazon.

Teo never intended to be 'the wolf man.' The wolves, he says, chose him. 

It started with Tala, the little wolf-dog pictured below, who opened Teo’s heart. Teo went on to rescue a pack of 16 more wolf-dogs, before making the wolf-human connection his life's purpose.

Today's episode is about what we, as a civilisation, can learn from these four-legged teachers.

Some show highlights include:

  • How wolves may have helped humans to avoid extinction
  • How we can "re-wild" ourselves (and why it matters)
  • What it means to lead with the heart
  • A few of Teo's "howls to action" - ways we can learn from wolves in our day-to-day lives
  • How Beau (pictured below) let go of past trauma - and how we can too
  • What three-legged Annie (below) can teach us about resilience

Join us for this transformational, feel-good episode. I've never recorded anything like this...

Links and Resources

Wolf Connection

Wolf Connection Youth Ambassadors - Meet the Pack

Teo Alfero on Instagram

Wolf Connection on Instagram

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by Teo Alfero:

“Today, the wolf is a teacher of family values, altruism, integrity, and camaraderie.”

“Initially, the wolf was a teacher of survival. They taught us how to hunt...migrate...take care of our young in a more community-based environment and setting.”

“The wolves have helped us evolve and survive a few times. I believe they can help us again. Right now, humanity is at a stage of confusion.”

“For me, the heart is already wild.”

 

Apr 29, 2019

Today we're talking adrenal fatigue and burnout with Susi Hately, yoga teacher, burnout expert, and registered kinesiologist.

Though she's knowledgeable and friendly, she says her burnout clients don't seek her out willingly. In fact, she's often a last resort.

Many of her clients are driven, successful people in their 40s and 50s who have hit the wall.

They've pushed through symptoms like brain fog, non-restorative sleep, digestive issues and constant exhaustion.

They've come because they've tried all the usual crutches - more caffeine, more exercise, more carbs - and nothing works.

In this conversation, Susi talks to those of us high-achievers who have a tendency to deny our symptoms, or who want to get rid of them. Instead, she encourages us to listen to those symptoms. They're messengers attempting to communicate vital information.

What I love about this conversation is that Susi helps us to start thinking about what would be possible for us if we worked WITH the body and listened to the messengers. What would be possible then?

I love, too, that she points out that falling back into old patterns of over-doing is part of the healing (whew). Ironically, me publishing this particular episode was delayed due to me having a relapse into adrenal fatigue. Healing is a long game! I'm going to re-tune into this episode too!

Some show highlights:

  • What is burnout anyway?
  • Is there a pattern to what kind of person gets burnout? 
  • What are the symptoms?
  • Listening to your body's whispers means it won't have to scream
  • Overcoming the unhelpful mentality of no pain, no gain
  • How to change a hard-core mindset to allow healing and change

Join us!

Links and Resources:

Functional Synergy

Susi Hately on Instagram

Susi Hately on Facebook

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

@moxiethoughts on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Susi Hately:

“They’re utilizing their best traits in a way that’s pushing against themselves, and in a way that’s ignoring the symptoms that are actually trying to get their attention.”

“It works, and it works, and it works, until it doesn’t work anymore. They might try and add in all these extra external, superficial stimulants.”

“We just keep adding crutches to an already depleted system.”

“When you see a glimmer, recognize that things can change.”

Feb 19, 2019

You lie to yourself.

We all do.

You do things you don't really want to do, then resent it.

Agreeing to things (especially if they're far in the future), means you don't hurt someone's feelings in the moment. You get to avoid the awkward conversation where you say 'No.' Then the occasion comes and you face palm, asking yourself, 'Why did I say yes to this?'

Because you lied to yourself!

You avoided momentary discomfort. That's one reason your diary is over-full.

But it's more than just the people pleasing.

It's the speed, the hustle, the seductive lie that the faster and harder you push, the more successful you'll be.

It's the lack of clarity, too, around what success even means.

What can shift this is having clear criteria around what is allowed to take up your time and attention.

It's striving for Effectiveness vs. Efficiency.

It's putting practices into place that help you decide if something belongs in your life. Simple, but not easy...

Today’s guest is Mark Silverman, author, master coach and speaker. Also, he’s the creator of the Mastering Midlife Podcast. 

Some show highlights include:

  • Why pausing and real contemplation are critical, especially in mid-life
  • A practical question you can use next time someone asks you to do something you don't want to do
  • Setting boundaries (and expecting consequences)
  • Spending time getting clear on what a 10/10 looks like - and using that criteria
  • Practices to get clear on what YOU want

Join us!

Links and Resources

Mark Silverman

Mastering Midlife Podcast

Mark Silverman’s Books

Gary Vaynerchuk

Grant Cardone

The 5 Choices: The Path to Extraordinary Productivity by Franklin Covey

Julia Cameron's Morning Pages

4PC

Tim Ferriss’s Books

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

@moxiethoughts on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes:

“When I talk about midlife, it’s a time when people take stock.” Mark Silverman

“I believe you can achieve more and achieve more of the right things by slowing down.” - Mark Silverman

“Slowing down clears the clutter, and it allows you to create traction in the things that are really, really truly important to your head, heart, and gut.” - Mandy Lehto

“I’m not automatically truthful with myself. I’m a recovering people pleaser.” - Mark Silverman

Dec 21, 2018

In 2016, singer-songwriter Monique DeBose was diagnosed with a tumour.

She did something deeply creative after that.

She dialogued with it.

She asked what it wanted to teach her.

It replied, "You need to be expressing authentically in a way that really has you be fulfilled.”

So she asked herself, “What am I really not saying in the world that I need to be saying? And what am I afraid to say, but feel the need to say?”

This year, Monique released two creative projects, both edgy and highly personal.

One was an award-winning play, Mulatto Math, that sold out in New York and Los Angeles.

The other was her chart-topping album, The Sovereign One, which hit #2 on its iTunes debut.

In today's episode, Monique and I play with the tension between expressing and playing safe.

How do we allow ourselves to be visible, to be seen, when what we're saying feels vulnerable?

What if it hurts, or shocks someone?

What if people we care about don't like it? What if they think about us differently?

How do we speak up anyway, even if we're scared of how it'll be received?

Show highlights include:

  • Hearing what’s asking to be heard, even if it won’t be appreciated (or might even cause pain)
  • How reaching the "fuck-its" can open you
  • If you can quit your creative project, you should do so...
  • Practical ways to handle discomfort
  • Using the 3 Improv Rules: Be present, listen, and “yes, and…”
  • How to make space inside yourself to hear what’s going on

You don't need to be creating a project in the world to get something out of this conversation.

This is for anyone who struggles with visibility and speaking up.

Want to feel braver being seen?

Join us.

Links and Resources

Monique DeBose on Facebook

Monique DeBose

The Sovereign One

Maya Angelou

Giovanna Capozza

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

@moxiethoughts on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by Monique DeBose:

“I started having conversations with the tumor, asking it what it was here to teach me. What it shared: You need to be expressing authentically in a way that really has you be fulfilled.”

“What am I really not saying in the world that I need to be saying, and what am I afraid to say, but I feel need to say?”

“We like to feel comfortable as humans. That’s just a natural thing. And to really go for it...takes a huge act of courage.”

“That energy of ‘you must speak your truth’ just haunted me.”

Nov 10, 2018

You can't achieve your way to self worth.

You can't force the squinchy part of yourself into submission - the part that feels weak and less-than and shameful.

You can't exercise it into oblivion, or smother it with success or any other form of doing.

You can't hide it behind shiny things. Not for long, anyway.

It's an inside job.

Ask Hazel Gale.

She's a former world-champion boxer and kick boxer who drove herself to breaking point, ignoring the physical signs that she was burning out. She numbed her fears of weakness and not-enoughness with punishing workouts.

Her body had other plans, but Hazel didn't want to listen. It was a fight she couldn't win.

"I had to crash," she says. "You can't wage war on yourself and emerge victorious."

Burnt-out and unrecognisable to herself, Hazel met her most formidable opponent yet, her fear of weakness.

Hazel shares how she let go of old coping mechanisms, and how she befriended her "Mind Monster," the part of herself that she'd thrashed against for decades.

Now, as an author and cognitive hypnotherapist, she's made a movement of it - the Mind Monster movement. She shares how you can leave behind your own pre-patterned behaviours that no longer serve you.

We talk about:

  • How Hazel found "a language" in fighting that perfectly told the story she wanted to express - that she was strong and worthwhile and dominant
  • How working more, harder and faster to be good enough worked against her
  • How "Monsters" show up in our lives. What story does yours tell over and over?
  • How to move from "Magical Thinking" to "Trans-Systemic Thinking"
  • The two traits of trans-systemic thinkers
  • Why your fatigue is a symptom of your dishonesty

If you're ready to relate to yourself differently, join us.

Thanks for tuning in. I'm so glad you're here.

 

Links and Resources

 

Hazel Gale’s Email

Fight Book

Meetthemindmasters on Instagram

Hazel Gale on Instagram

Fight Facebook Group

Hazel Gale’s Articles on Medium

Hazel Gale on Twitter

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Hazel Gale:

 

“I had a sense that I deserved to win the fight.”

 

“All of that self-doubt and shame that had preceded this moment had been false. From that point on, my life changed.”

 

“Our bodies can’t speak to us in any other way than to create symptoms.”

Oct 21, 2018

I'm fascinated by resilience, particularly how some people demonstrate extraordinary bounce-back-ability, and humour even, when something devastating happens. Maybe it's a redundancy or a medical diagnosis. Maybe a long-term relationship breaks up.

You know those people who thrive in spite of their challenging circumstances?

They have every reason to become jaded and cynical. Instead they're insightful. Funny. Wise like Yoda.

How do they do that?

Meet today's guest, James Shone. At 39 years old, James was at the pinnacle of his career. He'd just received a prestigious Headship at a school and was about to move his wife and four children into their new home, when disaster struck.

Two words changed his life forever: brain tumour.

James tells his story in the episode, but I wanted to pre-share this here. Most of us don't have" enough air in our balloons," he says. So when the unexpected happens we can't spring up as easily. We have a choice in adversity, he says, (quoting Winston Churchill):

Do we give up, or do we get up?

What saved him, James said, was a gratitude practice, a sense of humour, and connecting deeply to his purpose.

Some show highlights include:

  • Resilience is strength and speed of response to adversity. Build resilience BEFORE you need it
  • James's 3-Step Mantra: Look up, look forward, and look out
  • Stay flexible - We can have quite rigid ideas about what life is "supposed to" look like
  • Start focusing on your "I can" list, instead of fixating on what you can't do.
  • Gratitude, lightening up and helping others...
  • How can YOU put more air in your balloon?

Please join me for this funny and uplifting conversation with James Shone...

Links and Resources

I Can and I Am

Option B Book

The 3 min video I mention with Sheryl Sandberg & Adam Grant

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

Quotes by James Shone:

“It's important to that our foundations are flexible - go with the flow, or you'll be felled.”

“One of the most compelling reasons to get up is others.”

“Follow your dreams...have a vision for your life. Keep your eyes high and keep dreaming.”

Oct 5, 2018

"I'm giving up caffeine," you say, all gung-ho and fist pumps.

Then 4pm strikes and you've got an axe in your head, or so it feels.

You're standing at the coffee bar, eyes like spirographs, remembering your promise to give up your afternoon espresso with two sugars.

"Tomorrow. I promise I'll start tomorrow..."

And if it's not coffee, maybe it's starting the gym, or cutting the insidious habit of checking your phone 500 times a day.

Why is it so darn hard to change a habit, even if we feel it'll serve us?

Today’s guest is Dr. Heather McKee, behaviour change psychologist and habit coach.

Forget willpower, she says. Skill power's where it's at.

Some show highlights include:

  • Understanding the “Why” of your aspired habit (game-changer!)
  • How habits are formed - and why knowing this matters
  • Identifying the cues and rewards associated with the behaviours you're trying to change
  • Starting a "Temptation Tracker"
  • Willpower is like the battery on your mobile phone - it wears down throughout the day. Don't rely on it!
  • The importance of enjoyment in the habit-creation process

Join us!

 

Links and Resources:

Dr. Heather McKee

Dr. Heather McKee on Facebook

Dr. Heather McKee on Twitter

Bite Sized Habits Podcast

Simon Sinek

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Heather McKee:

“When you focus all of your attention on those outcome-based goals, you start to obsess over that number. When those goals become too difficult, you kind of veer off track.”

“Intrinsically motivated goals - they’re the things that matter to you most.”

“One of the things we have to think about habit change is it’s not about kind of shaming ourselves into change or using change as a punishment or trying to fix ourselves.”

Jul 14, 2018

You walk into a social event where you don't know anyone. Everyone's mingling - everyone but you.

You're at the buffet, scoffing vol-au-vents, holding your plastic glass of pee-warm chardonnay. You glance around, wiping crumbs from your lapels. Nope. Still no one you recognise. You look at your watch, wondering how long to subject yourself to this low-grade humiliation. The temptation to pull out your phone is intense. It'd make you feel like less of a plonker.

Five more minutes, you tell yourself. So you stand awkwardly next to the potted plant, reading the fire escape instructions. Dum-de-dum-de-dum. Moment by moment, you're emitting more desperate signals, and shockingly, no one swans over to engage you in conversation. You give a passer-by a watery smile, but no dice.

I'm outta here, you say to yourself. I'm just not good at this socialising thing. That was as fun as a root canal.

If any part of my intro rings true, today's conversation is going to be a game-changer.

Karen Baker is a professional people-person, rapport-building-wizard and master conversationalist. That's my description of her. She goes, more simply, by 'Coach.'

In her previous career, Karen was a successful fundraiser and a masterful connector. She was - and IS - the kind of person who strikes up conversations in supermarket queues (and at those buffets I mentioned) without coming across as cheesy, insincere or stalkerish.

That, friends, is an art.

I approached Karen with one question: How can we talk to absolutely anyone, anywhere?

Her answer is this episode.

She's going to teach us...

  • how to find an "in" when you want to connect with someone
  • how curiosity and paying attention are the only tools you need - look for the "foamy moustache" in the room
  • how power can befuddle the ways in which we connect
  • how to create a service mentality
  • how to belong in every room you're in

If you've ever wanted to feel less awkward in conversations, and be one of those smooth operators who starts conversations with ease, get your note pad and press play. We've got you covered.

Join us.

 

Links and Resources:

Karen Baker on Instagram

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Karen Baker:

 

“Conversation is not about give and take. Conversation is mostly about give.”

“Your ultimate goal is to have a conversation that they will never forget.”

Jun 23, 2018

Social media is full of memes encouraging us to "be ourselves," and to "be authentic."

That could be the least helpful advice ever. How do we do that? What does it even mean?

Enter Sarah McVanel, today's guest.

Sarah had a wake-up call when her son had a mental health crisis and ended up on antidepressants. She left her job and simplified the family's affluent lifestyle to focus on her son's recovery. This challenge helped to crystallise Sarah's own greatness, and a new career was born...

Nowadays, Sarah helps others to recognise and grow their greatness by FROGGING them.

It can be hard to see our own zone of genius, or how compelling our quirks and idiosyncrasies really are (so often we try hard to hide the very things that make us groovy.)

One of Sarah's method is to "Forever Recognise  Others' Greatness." You can start using FROG too. It's surprisingly uplifting. 

Show highlights include:

  • The difference between wanting and deciding
  • How choice is an antidote to passive living
  • Afraid to fail (or succeed)? Perfect recipes for inaction...
  • Embracing your 'weirdness' and idiosyncrasies
  • How recognising the greatness in others helps you see your rad-ness

Join us. I felt so good after this conversation. I hope you will too.

 

Links and Resources

Sarah McVanel

Lucy Whittington

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Sarah McVanel:

 

“That’s part of the hero’s journey. We can be our own hero if we choose to be.”

 

“Being 'boss' is really your own version of your own greatness.”

 

“My greatness is worth it. What I have to offer, I actually am unique and special and weird and different - and that’s a good thing.”

May 23, 2018

You know that old chestnut, "Go big or go home"? There's an implication that it looks a certain way to go BIG.

It's usually shiny and far-reaching. There's loads of travel and champagne involved.

Big success is seductive. So seductive, that we often we leave parts of ourselves (the creative part, for instance, or sometimes the kind part) in order to pursue it.

Yet here's the bonkers thing: Do you even want that? Do you know what success means for YOU?

Today's episode is about how we can stop leaving ourselves.

How do we start listening to that deep inner whisper that wants to make us whole again, especially if it's whispering something that feels inconvenient? (Like 'quit your job').

Today’s guest is Kendra Cunov, founder of Fierce Grace: Practices of Embodied Wholeness for Women. Kendra studies, facilitates, and practices authentic relating, embodiment practices, and deep intimacy work.

 

Some highlights of our conversation include:

  • How to get back into integrity
  • The link between adrenal fatigue and leaving ourselves
  • Why we don't listen to our body wisdom
  • Practical tips on tuning into your inner knowing again
  • The "I want" practice - how repetition 'clears out the pipes' and allows the Truth to come out
  • A phrase that makes you available to this moment

This conversation is like a deep, soft exhale.

Join us.

 

Links and Resources

 

Kendra Cunov

Kendra Cunov’s Fierce Grace

Contact Kendra Cunov

Kendra Cunov’s Blog

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Suzy Reading

 

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Kendra Cunov:

 

“I had a really unconventional life. One of my values is in bringing the conventional and the unconventional together.”

 

“Sometimes you have to do things you don’t want to do...but I choose that because there’s a value that I’m honoring underneath that.”

 

“We use the word, ‘stress,’ as a catch-all for a lot of things.”

May 3, 2018

If you ever find yourself saying, "I'll be happy when...then fill in the blank," today's episode is for you.

I'm joined today by the "Happyologist," Susanna Halonen.

Have a guess at what percentage of your happiness is predicted by your circumstances.

I said 50 per cent, and Susanna set me straight (tune in to find out).

Some show highlights include:

  • Thinking of happiness as a muscle
  • How to build your resilience and intuition
  • How Susanna knew her happiness was at stake (and couldn't go through with her wedding)
  • Learn about the famous Finnish 'Sisu'
  • How to give happiness-inducing hugs (there's a science to it)

If you're in need of an inspiring and uplifting conversation today - and want to learn some practices for cultivating more happiness in your life - join us. You might just find the corners of your mouth lifting.

 

Links and Resources

Susanna Halonen’s Website

Happiness Is Here: A 30-Day Guide to Joy and Fulfilment by Susanna Halonen

Screw Finding Your Passion by Susanna Halonen

Susanna Halonen on Instagram

Susanna Halonen on Twitter

Susanna Halonen on Facebook

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Susanna Halonen:

 

“My mission in this world is to help people to live happier and more fulfilling lives.”

 

“I realized that happiness is really not a destination, it’s a daily choice.”

 

“Our mind is a very powerful thing, and that’s why we need to kind of learn to practice focusing on the good things.”

Apr 9, 2018

If you've ever grappled with the angst-producing question, "Is this all there is?", today's episode is for you.

We're connected 24-7, yet we crave intimacy and true connection in our bellies. Am I right?

We've learned to value productivity (and accessibility) over the soul-satisfaction of doing work that makes us feel alive.

If you're nodding "uh-huh," I've been there too. I feel you.

The challenge of asking 'Is this all there is?' is the icky feeling of ingratitude. We have SO much - an embarrassment of riches, really. It's almost shameful to feel empty.

So how can we bring more purpose and joy into our lives?

Many of us want more, but we can't (or don't want to) uproot our lives, grow a beard and move to the Himalayas. If that happens to be your thing, bon voyage! Send us a postcard, superstar!

If that's not your shtick, what are some other options?

Enter Jeff.

Jeff Harmon is founder and head coach at Brilliance Within Coaching and Consulting.

He shares on how to infuse your daily life with more feel-good.

We touch on:

  • How to create space when things are moving too fast
  • How to infuse joy into things you already do (it's not about doing more)
  • The 7-day "listen more" challenge
  • Using powerful questions to interrupt your patterns

I characterise this episode as quick 'n' deep. Lots to chew on. Lots to try.

Grab your cuppa and join us.

 

Links and Resources

 

Brilliance Within Coaching and Consulting

Jeff Harmon on Linkedin

How Can I Slow Down, When Things are Moving So Fast

Shawn Achor

The Joy Diet

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Questions to interrupt your patterns:

What makes me feel alive?

What's most important right now?

What life-giving habit or practice can I add to my life?

What's the tiniest step I could take?

Mar 16, 2018

Hands up if you've ever experienced a forehead-meets-keyboard moment late in the afternoon before necking back another coffee or Diet Coke?

Or maybe you haven't eaten since breakfast - unless you count the biscuits in the 2pm meeting, or the breath mint you had in the taxi heading home.

Living like this, it's easy to role play any (or all) of the seven dysfunctional dwarves: Cranky, Listless, Angry, Twitchy, Shaky, Sleepless and the long-named one: About-to-Effing-Lose-it.

In the last episode of Moxiecast, we talked food mindset with Daniel Thomas Hind.

Today we get really practical with Rhiannon Lambert, a Harley Street nutritionist specialising in weight management, eating disorders, and sport's nutrition. She's also the author of Re-Nourish: A Simple Way To Eat Well

I've created a laser session (under 25 min) to help you get some tips that you can action right away.

Food affects your mood, people!

Even if your lifestyle isn't high-octane and your diet is pretty good, there's still plenty of goodies in this episode for you (like the tip about frozen raspberries - who knew?)

We explore:

  • Coffee - Is it off limits? How and when to drink it so you don't get all twitchy
  • What to stash in your bag to stave off energy crashes
  • What to stock in your cupboards at home
  • What to do if there's only chocolate and croissants available, and you're hungry...
  • Breakfasts of champions (including a surprising smoothie ingredient that's a game-changer!)
  • How to avoid those afternoon face-plants in your keyboard

You can't have life lift-off if you're not properly fuelled. Fact.

Join us!

 

Links & Resources

Rhiannon LambertInstagramTwitterEmailFacebook
Re-Nourish: A Simple Way To Eat Well

 

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Rhiannon:

“You can really feel incredible once you start to master how food can help you when you are that busy.”

“If all you can get is a chocolate bar or croissant on the go...that is not the end of the world.”

“If you drink a cup of coffee on an empty stomach, you’re then inducing more stress onto your body.”

 

Rhiannon Lambert is registered with the Association for Nutrition (AFN) and has a first-class Bachelor (BSc) degree in Nutrition and Health and a Master's (MSc) degree in Obesity, Risks, and Prevention. She is a Master Practitioner in Eating Disorders and Obesity. Rhiannon’s qualified approach to nutrition and total dedication to her clients' needs has allowed her to work with some of the world's most influential people.

Mar 7, 2018

"I know what it’s like to stand in front of a fridge and just eat and eat and eat. It's like you have no choice, you’re almost possessed.”

Meet Daniel Thomas Hind, founder of EvolutionEat, a transformational lifestyle coaching company that helps overwhelmed people revolutionize their relationship with food.

As a formerly fat Italian kid, Daniel's got some experience here. Food was comfort growing up. Food was love. It was also an antidote to boredom, loneliness and stress.

Nowadays Daniel works with high-profile clients who have a complex relationship with food - even if they don't know it.

Many of his clients are busy, high achievers, people who used to run from meeting to meeting hopped up on coffee.

These are people who couldn't see a way of creating space to nourish themselves properly.

They used to skip meals, too busy to eat. Then they would crash because they were running on empty, on fumes of sleep and caffeine.

Where's my next espresso-hit (or family-sized chocolate bar) to get me through my next meeting?

If this sounds familiar, I've brought Daniel onto the show to help.

He shares insights on:

  • How to permanently change the way you eat by understanding that you actually have a relationship with food
  • How a growth mindset can transform how you eat
  • Why striving for "good enough" is a game-changer
  • Tips for the insanely busy
  • How a morning routine and midday anchor can set you up for success

Join us!

Your energy levels will thank you.

 

Links and Resources

EvolutionEat

Rich Litvin

 

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Quotes by Daniel:

“My clients come to me just lacking a general sense of awareness, integral to their understanding all the factors that play when it comes to their diet.”

“Most people have never even considered that they have a relationship with food.”

Feb 21, 2018

Have you ever thought about over-achieving as a form of distraction? Me either.

Enter Giovanna Capozza, today's guest.

Giovanna is a transformational coach, speaker and host of She Rises, a podcast which focuses on everything from business leadership to spirituality for high-achieving women.

She's witty, wise and has the best eyebrows on the planet, but I digress...

In today's conversation we unpack the compelling, almost impulsive need to be "nexting" - working on the next achievement, the next purchase, the next thing that will bring validation and a little hit of dopamine ("We are getting high like this," she says).

Giovanna gets us thinking about how we might be numbing our uncomfortable tasks, truths or fears with haagen-dazs, Netflix and over-working.

Some show highlights include:

  • How to get clear if your overachieving is coming from an unhealthy place (and what to do if it is)
  • Identifying your garden variety distractions. Social media? Chasing "display success"? Eating when you're not hungry?
  • How to live more consciously when it feels easier to eat a cupcake (or 5) while binge-watching a box-set and scrolling on your phone
  • A useful practice you can try right away...

Please join us!

OH! I'm trialing a new shorter show format, so episodes will run between 20-30 minutes. I'd love to hear your feedback.

Enjoy the show...

 

Links and Resources:

She Rises podcast

The Greatest Showman movie

This Is Us TV show

Email show feedback to  hello@mandylehto.com

Review MoxieCast on iTunes

 

Pearls of wisdom by Giovanna:

“This has been a lifelong thing for me. It’s been a push/pull. It’s held me back in many ways, and it’s been the thing to propel me forward in so many ways. So, it’s been a blessing and a curse.”

“I reached a point where there was nothing. There was a void. I had nothing outside of myself that I could identify with...it was so scary.”

What is it that I'm trying not to feel? We need a gap between stimulus and response to make a change.


Dec 15, 2017

Today’s guest is Monica Day, a self-described “instigator.” The topic of discussion today is how to create more intentional eroticism in your life. We all want to be swept off our feet and experience animal passion, but we also crave safety and security.

Monica is going to tell us how those two ideas aren’t at odds. We’ll also talk about how to have more and better sex as well as how to manage this if you tend to be a bit shy. You won’t want to miss today’s juicy episode!

Some of the highlights of the show include:

  • The paradox of passion: What it is and why it’s important to balance the domestic and the erotic parts of your personality.
  • How to rekindle the spark when you’re juggling work, kids, house, and all of the other obligations that accompany adulthood.
  • Why fairy-tale romance is damaging the way we as a society and as individuals approach sex.
  • The importance of playfulness, curiosity and communication when it comes to building up our sexual lives.
  • What you can do to focus more on sensuality and sensations when it comes to your sexuality and your relationship.
  • Some of the exercises that are in Monica’s book; these can help you shift the way you think about sex and sensuality.
  • Thoughts on overcoming shyness and awkwardness when discussing needs and wants with your partner.
  • The silent vow that many people take that can lead to the death of desire and even of the relationship in general.
  • Why waiting to be in the mood doesn’t work.

Links and Resources:

Monica Day

The Sensual Life

Play Wild, Stay Safe

Mating in Captivity

 

Quotes:

“Our sexual energy is dynamic; it’s not static. It’s not something that lives in the closet with your sex toys... it’s responsive to where we are in our lives.”

“The industry of romance has crippled us from being able to come to sex from a primal place.”

“You can have a paradigm shift with your mind, but it’s a very different thing to have a paradigm shift with your body.”

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